Maintaining an Open Heart in the Midst of Tragedy

_DSC0456

Sole Prescription Pharmacy Dr. Shannon Bindler, M.A. CEC.
10/31/2014
There are times in life when it’s natural to want protect yourself, but a small “peep” or opening at the toe of your shoe encourages one to maintain an open heart (even in the darkest of days). The Peep Toe has an opening at the toe-box that exposes the toe line. A hint of skin makes the peep toe chic yet subtly provocative. A peep toe is common in many shoe styles, including slingbacks, pumps, platforms, and booties. A peep toe assists one in remaining open to love in all forms while providing a substantial degree of protection and security (physically and emotionally).
Symptoms
A peep toe is prescribed to individuals suffering from one or more of the following feelings or experiences: feeling emotionally closed off, needing protection, afraid of getting hurt, feeling attacked or wronged, a sense of vulnerability.
Warnings
Wear may create a sense of connection, trust, and openness. May lead to falling head over heals in love with oneself or another. Must be worn with caution while vacationing in Las Vegas!
For those that know me personally, they can attest to my generally positive outlook. Even with a naturally upbeat disposition, life can get strange and upsetting—and I suppose in times like these it’s necessary to call upon all of the tools that I teach and have diligently studied over the years.

A coyote killed my beloved pup a couple of weeks ago, and it’s brought up all sorts of issues to work through. I was outside with him at the time, and I’ve experienced a ton of self-judgment about having him outside in the dark, not keeping him closer, and not doing something, anything, differently.

The only answer is self-forgiveness. Forgiving myself for any and all of the judgments that present themselves. Forgiving myself for not being a better pet owner, forgiving myself for not installing a 10 foot fence, for not having a gun with me (although even if I had one, I don’t know that killing another animal would have really been the answer)… forgiving whatever strange (and most of the time unreasonable) judgments that surface. Most of them have an underlying theme of me being an awful person who allowed this tragedy to happen.

When I’m not judging myself, I’ve found myself judging God. Who created this food chain anyway? I mean, throw a bunch of living beings on a planet, and most will survive by eating each other? Seriously, Supreme Creator, that was kind of a twisted plan! I’m sure there is some really reasonable and divine explanation for that apparently cruel setup; I’m just having difficulty understanding it in this moment.

_DSC0457Valentino peep toe pumps shot by the talented Victoria Flower.

It’s times like these, when life becomes surreal, that we most need to open our hearts. For me, that means opening myself to receiving support and love from friends and family. Opening my heart to self-compassion and self-forgiveness. Opening my heart to the Universe—trusting that this is an important lesson, that I will ultimately serve the highest good. I want to blame someone or something, even if that person is myself, but when I tap into the higher aspects of my being, I know it’s really not about blaming anyone, but about loving everyone. Loving my dog, loving the coyote, and having compassion for the woman who did her best in an awful moment.

_DSC0461

I stand wearing a pair of peep toe shoes to remind me to maintain an open heart—especially when it comes to my own judgments of myself.

I’d love to hear how you’ve supported yourself to move from self-judgment to self-love?

 

Subscribe!– I give away free shoes!

A special thanks to Victoria Flower Photography for shooting the stunning images for this post!

MORE FROM THE BLOG

Getting Grounded

Being grounded means being present. When we’re grounded we are focused on…

Read More

Mom in the Middle

Shakti is the concept, or personification, of divine feminine creative power, sometimes referred…

Read More

Living Juicy

“My aim is for ripeness of form. I want to make my…

Read More

In the Groove

I’ve always loved to dance. I’ve had an inkling that dancing had…

Read More

Dress as Well as You Want to Feel

SUPPORTED SYMPTOMS · feeling alone      · insecure · sense of…

Read More

Step Into Greatness!

Big news! After many requests, I’m relaunching my private life coaching practice–…

Read More

Experience a Miracle, Right Now

Shanali Martin wearing Romance Was Born for an America’s Next Top Model photographed by…

Read More

Where Love Wants To Go

UNBINDING LOVE SYMPTOMS · desire to control another    · feeling unloved · broken heart  …

Read More

The Sanctity of Shoes: TEDx Malibu

I’ve written about my insecurities about speaking at TEDx Malibu this year,…

Read More

Off to the Races!

GALLOPING FREEDOM SYMPTOMS · feeling caged    · unadventurous · sluggish          …

Read More