Where Love Wants To Go

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UNBINDING LOVE

symptomsSYMPTOMS
· desire to control another    · feeling unloved
· broken heart    · feeling alone

RxPRESCRIPTION UNBINDING LOVE
OUTER:
 Heels by Prada, DIY sequin heart shoe clips, DIY shoe heart sole.
INNER: I connect to love and fill my cup to the brim.

warningWARNING: Wear may instigate a full heart and a desire to share that overflow with another. Caution: wear may instigate feelings unbridled contentment.

1These adorable heart clips are the perfect DIY Valentines Day shoe accessory. Make your own!

What is love? Sometimes we give it away, and other times we receive it. We withhold love, and it can be withheld from us. Love is more than an emotion; it’s an ineffable force, like gravity, that can pull, connect, and grow.

Love can catch us by surprise and disappoint like no other. That is, when we try to put it in a controlled container. Love is messy. Love is free. And we all want to experience it.

The best way I’ve ever been able to explain love is through this simple poem (author unknown):

Love is the sweetest thing that I know,
You keep it around by letting it go.
And you follow close and you follow slow.
Let love take you where love wants to go.

jasmine-amber-heart-shoesThere is nothing like walking with love on your soles. Image by Jasmine Amber Photography. Check out her site for amazing bridal photography.

Love is letting go. One of the greatest gifts we’ve been given is the gift of choice. To try to control love is futile. You can choose to connect to love. Or not. But none of us can exert power over it.

Love comes from the overflow. Fill your own cup. Respect yourself. Take care of yourself to the highest degree possible. When your cup is filled to the brim, it’s easy to extend that overflow to another. If they don’t want to partake, then smile and let them be on their way. It’s the same with a lover, friend, or even our children (or parents). Love never puts itself upon another or drains from another.

To love is to let go.

Love is always available. Ask to feel love’s presence, and you’ll be filled, not by someone else but by the universe. It’s always here, we just need to connect and invite it in.

ShannonPradaMarbleThis and the first featured snapshot were taken by my friend and creative muse Ayn Carrillo Gailey.

Fill yourself with love, and then fill another. And let love take you where love wants to go.

 

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The Sanctity of Shoes: TEDx Malibu

Sole Prescription Pharmacy Dr. Shannon Bindler, M.A., C.E.C.
08/20/2017
A red closed-­toe pump is prescribed for individuals who want to experience more confidence. A closed-­toe pump is a heel that has a closed toe and back. It tends to have a seamless vamp, with no laces, straps or buckles. Heel may vary in height, and color may range in shade.
Symptoms
A red closed-toe pump is prescribed to individuals suffering from one or more of the following feelings or experiences: insecurity, fear or timidity, not believing in self or ideas, feeling "less than" or inferior, lack of willingness to take risks.
Warnings
Side effects may include belief in oneself, increased courage, higher self-­esteem, and greater success. Moderate use may lead to job promotions and other unforeseen opportunities. Overuse may lead to dancing unabashedly in public.

I’ve written about my insecurities about speaking at TEDx Malibu this year, and I’m delighted and terrified that my talk just went live online. It took all of the confidence I could muster to stand on that stage, and it feels as if it’s being required to yet again reach out and share the video with the world.

Well, there is no time like the present, and I recently made a commitment to myself to stand in my power and to share my creativity, even if it scares me to death. I’m acknowledging my fear and moving forward regardless.

My talk is about using shoes as a spiritual tool. Yes, that’s right – SHOES! If you’ve been reading my blog for a while then you know that I think shoes can be pretty magical and metaphorical, and if you’re new, this will be a quick and fun way for you get to know me and my ideas about spirituality, materialism, and shoes.

If you enjoy it, I’d love to ask you to consider sharing it with your community. It would make my day, and hopefully touch and inspire someone in your life.

GETTHELOOK1. Peplum dress by Zara 2. Red closed-toe pumps by Prada 3. Johasun Wireless Microphone 4. Red lipstick by Mac Cosmetics

What do you use as a reminder of your intentions?

 

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Allowing 100%: A Stocking to Myself

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Sole Prescription Pharmacy Dr. Shannon Bindler, M.A., C.E.C.
08/20/2017
The ballet flat is prescribed for individuals who want to experience a greater sense of balance in their life. The design was modeled after a soft dance shoe. They are traditionally flexible with a hard sole and no (or very thin) heel. Some styles feature a decorative string throat, reminiscent of the ballet slipper's drawstring.
Symptoms
Signs of erratic behavior or mood swings, extreme or irrational thoughts, imbalance in how time and/or energy are spent, instability (emotional, spiritual, physical, or mental), lack of harmony between life roles (work, family, projects, etc.).
Warnings
May cause steadiness, a state of equilibrium, emotional and mental stability and centeredness. Extremists beware: continued wear may create an even disposition.

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I hate to sound like Scrooge, but the weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas tend to be my least favorite of the year. I love Christmas Eve and the actual day of Christmas but can do without crowded mall shopping, blasting holiday music, and the general feeling of overwhelm that seem to accompany the season. Every year, I tell myself I won’t let the holiday season stress me out, and every year it does (or, rather, I allow it to).

I’m a bit of a mess right now, but a little less of a mess than in other years because this year I made an oath to take care of myself. I’ve never been one to buy myself birthday or Christmas gifts, and even though holiday shopping can be overwhelming, I adore giving presents to friends and family and would normally never dream of spending part of my gift budget on myself. However, this year I decided to make myself a stocking that represents my commitment to taking care of myself in the next year.

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As I wondered what fully showing up and supporting myself meant to me, I was surprised to discover that what came forward was the concept that I deserve to experience the feeling of something being 100%.

That might sound like a strange concept, but growing up in a large family living on a modest income, I became accustomed to making things work that really weren’t 100%. For example, when I was given a pair of hand-me-down boots that were a size too large, I wedged toilet paper in the toes and gratefully wore them. I trained my eye to see past small stains on t-shirts or piles of other people’s things cluttering the living room. None of that was bad, but I’ve also stayed in relationships and work situations that no longer served me 100%.

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I’m not willing to settle for 90% anymore. I’m worthy of 100% of my own attention to details. While I haven’t worn clothing with stains for years, I’m aware that I still sometimes allow people, situations, and items into my experience that aren’t up to par.

My stocking is a metaphor for entering a new phase of my adulthood where I take 100% responsibility for caring for my well-being. If something is not at that 100% level, I need to make it so or let go of it. I realize this might be tough, especially when it comes to aspects of my life like relationships and work, but I think it’s possible to make subtle changes that will shift those experiences. I might need to give more of myself to bring an experience up to the 100% mark, to share my authentic 100%, communicate at my 100%, love at my 100%, accepting myself and others 100% …

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My stocking contains simple but significant reminders:

Shoe Sizers, because I have 9-and-¼ sized feet. I’ve spent my entire life sizing up or down, and from here on out I am taking an oath to add a Sizer to every shoe that doesn’t fit 100%.

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A pair of Keysocks, because sometimes I want to wear socks with heels and find myself settling by showing socks that I don’t 100% love or choosing not to wear a pair of socks even if that means I’ll get blisters. No more!

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And, finally, a pair of foldable Butterfly Twist ballet flats, because I hate lugging a second pair of shoes around when I wear heels; or, worse, keeping on a pair of heels when my feet are sore. These flats can fold into a clutch and allow me to tap into being 100% balanced anytime I want.

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Bring on 2014, because I’m embracing 100% of it!

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What does allowing 100% mean to you?

 

In the spirit of easing into the holidays, this will be my last post until 2014. I wish you and yours a fantastic New Year.

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Take A Walk On The Wild Side

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Dress by Steven Alan, shoes by Prada and sunglasses by Tom Ford

Sole Prescription Pharmacy Dr. Shannon Bindler, M.A., C.E.C.
08/20/2017
A red closed-­toe pump is prescribed for individuals who want to experience more confidence. A closed-­toe pump is a heel that has a closed toe and back. It tends to have a seamless vamp, with no laces, straps or buckles. Heel may vary in height, and color may range in shade.
Symptoms
A red closed-toe pump is prescribed to individuals suffering from one or more of the following feelings or experiences: insecurity, fear or timidity, not believing in self or ideas, feeling "less than" or inferior, lack of willingness to take risks.
Warnings
Side effects may include belief in oneself, increased courage, higher self-­esteem, and greater success. Moderate use may lead to job promotions and other unforeseen opportunities. Overuse may lead to dancing unabashedly in public.

During Day of the Dead, I made sure to light a candle for the late punk-poet of rock, Lou Reed. While Reed never reached the commercial success of, say, the Beatles or Bob Dylan, no songwriter did more to open rock music to the avant-garde.

Lou Reed was a testament to carving one’s own path. His unique sound and sometimes-gritty lyrics provided inspiration for the indie rock, punk, and alternative rock movements. Reed’s songs were covered by R.E.M., Nirvana, Patti Smith, among countless others.

I read that the Velvet Underground’s first album sold only 30,000 copies, but everyone who bought it started a band. It may not have been a commercial hit, but as far as the history of music goes, the album was a massive success. It makes me wonder what “success” really means? I want to take greater inspiration from the Lou Reed model and less from the Paris Hilton model. True talent, inspiration, and innovation may not always look like a big paycheck, but it sure can have a massive impact.

I hope you are taking a walk on the peaceful side these days, Lou Reed. Your wild side will undoubtedly continue to inspire countless generations.

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Snapshots by Ayn Carrillo Gailey. Check out her creative projects at AynGailey.com & Wondermint

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Life is a Song, So She Sang

Sole Prescription Pharmacy Dr. Shannon Bindler, M.A., C.E.C.
08/20/2017
A red closed-­toe pump is prescribed for individuals who want to experience more confidence. A closed-­toe pump is a heel that has a closed toe and back. It tends to have a seamless vamp, with no laces, straps or buckles. Heel may vary in height, and color may range in shade.
Symptoms
A red closed-toe pump is prescribed to individuals suffering from one or more of the following feelings or experiences: insecurity, fear or timidity, not believing in self or ideas, feeling "less than" or inferior, lack of willingness to take risks.
Warnings
Side effects may include belief in oneself, increased courage, higher self-­esteem, and greater success. Moderate use may lead to job promotions and other unforeseen opportunities. Overuse may lead to dancing unabashedly in public.

Red shoes have always held a magical quality for me. I remember reading Hans Christian Anderson’s “The Red Shoes,” a fairy tale about a girl whose red shoes made her dance to her death. I’m choosing to ignore the whole death part, which was pretty messed up, because to me it was still a magical story. I needed some magic myself a few years ago when I decided to try being a rock-star…

A friend of mine was a successful lawyer until one day he threw in the towel, moved to Los Angeles and became a musician. Within weeks of acquiring a drum set, he was booking gigs at basement parties and the local pub. Fast-­forward five years, and he had become a full­-on working musician with a real band and a record deal. So, when he heard me tipsily singing at a girlfriend’s birthday party and suggested I come into his studio to “lay down some tracks,” I thought it was fate.

The only problem was, I hadn’t sung in years, not to mention I had a year-­old baby at home who woke every few hours… But, where there’s a will, there’s a way. Hey, if Gwen Stefani could lasso Gavin Rossdale into staying home while she went on a world tour, I could convince my husband to play Mr. Mom for one night.

Ten o’clock rolled by, and I started to get tired. I lay on the couch for a few minutes when I heard a strange pit­a­ patter on the window. Wait, was it raining?

When it rains in Los Angeles, people lose all ability to drive. They may have come from the rainy Northwest, or like me, the snowy Northeast, but the seemingly endless days of sunshine somehow deaden one’s motor muscle memory. As soon as the first droplet falls, the freeway morphs into a sea of metal and insurance claims. This was going to be a problem. Leaving the house after eleven pm and facing the 10 freeway in the rain? I had to remind myself that the show must go on!

I dusted off a raincoat and a pair of polka­ dot rubber boots from the back of my closet. I started to close the door when my inner diva told me to grab my red closed-­toe pumps. I wedged the shoes into my diaper bag and set off to meet my destiny, no matter how harrowing the journey.

Walking through the studio door, my confidence deflated. This was a real recording studio, filled with musicians holding, like, instruments—which they could play! I waited in the corner with the other back­up singers and tried to warm up. Damn, these chicks could sing. I inched my way towards the exit. My friend sensed my uncertainty and threw his arm around me, forcing me to stay put. Then I found myself standing in front of the mic. Panic. What the hell was I doing? I had to do something, anything, so I pulled off my rubber Wellies and stepped into the red closed-­toe pumps. I shut my eyes and let my feet move to the beat… The music swept over me, and I started to sing. Like the red shoes in Anderson’s tale, my feet started moving in ways they never had moved before. There I was, dancing and singing with the best of ’em.

The music quieted, and I opened my eyes. I slipped off my pumps and thanked the group. My friend assured me that I was a natural. I smiled and felt a sense of relief and tiredness. I grabbed a chair and collected myself for a few moments before trudging back through the rain. I stared at my pumps in my hand. I’d actually done that. I might have sucked, but I had the confidence to get up in front of group of professionals and sing my heart out. For that one, fantastic night, my red shoes and I were bona fide rock-­stars.

Shoes by Prada